Tugas ibu bapa untuk didik anak ketika proses mereka membesar bukanlah tugas yang mudah. Malah, pelbagai ragam yang perlu dihadapi mengikut juga kesesuaian teknik didikan yang digunakan. Salah satu teknik yang menjadi pilihan ramai ibu bapa zaman kini adalah ‘Gentle Parenting’.
Kalau zaman dahulu, marah dan cubit anak-anak itu merupakan perkara biasa untuk mendidik tetapi kini tidak. Hal ini mungkin kerana faktor sekeliling dan gaya minda anak-anak pun sudah berubah menyebabkan mereka lebih sensitif. Tidak ketinggalan, selebriti dan pengacara popular Uyaina Arshad turut berkongsikan pengalamannya dalam mempraktikkan ‘Gentle Parenting’.
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DIDIK ANAK GUNA GENTLE PARENTING PERLU KESABARAN TINGGI, UYAINA PUN HAMPIR ‘MELETUP’!
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Menurut perkongsian Uyaina di laman Tiktoknya, tidur malamnya terganggu kerana anak lelakinya yang kedua sering meminta susu dan anak lelaki pertamanya pula menunjukkan ‘tantrum’ pada waktu pagi. Inilah yang menguji kesabaran dalam kalangan ibu yang lebih memilih untuk menjerit dan memarahi anak-anak dengan nada yang kuat.
“I had a rough night because Urayyan (the baby) asyik berjaga malam nak susu. And then I had a rough morning too sebab Urhan (the big brother) had tantrums. So pagi tadi, Urhan bangun je dari tidur, dia terus cranky for no obvious reasons. Tak nak bukak baju. Tak nak mandi. Tak nak itu. Tak nak ini,”
“Kesabaran I betul-betul diuji. Dah lah baru bangun, bangun pun mengejut sebab dia nangis menjerit. And I ada kerja! Call time awal pagi pulak.. The easy way is: Marah anak tu. Suruh dia diam,”
Namun, Uyaina dan suaminya telah berjanji dan memilih untuk melaksanakan teknik ‘gentle parenting’ kepada dua orang anak mereka. Oleh itu, apa yang perlu dilakukan adalah jika anak tengah mengamuk dan menangis, biarkan mereka selama beberapa minit sehingga mereka selesai.
“But I tried my level best to be a gentle mama. A Cool Mama. The one that does not scold my child just because he does not know how to regulate his feelings & emotions yet. This is the kind of parenting both Syahiran and I have agreed on,”
“So.. I sat down with him. Allowed him to be upset. Biarkan dia menangis. But at the same time I let him know I was there for him. Walaupun dalam mengantuk sebab Urayyan pun banyak bangun malam tadi (RIP my sleep) but I simply listened to him. And hugged him. And asked him what he wanted,”
“Urhan nak apple?”
“Nanak.”
“Urhan nak orange?”
“Nanak.”
“Urhan nak banana?”
“Nanak.”
Dalam konsep ‘gentle parenting’ ini, ibu atau bapa hanya perlu mengambil masa untuk menenangkan anak-anak yang tengah mengamuk. Memang susah untuk dipraktikkan kerana ramai dalam kalangan kita yang memilih untuk marah sahaja kepada anak. Tetapi, sikap suka marah ini akan menyebabkan anak-anak ada trauma dari kecil.
“And the conversation went on and on just asking about what he wanted. And he kept on shouting and crying and he also didn’t know what he wanted (obviously.) And then I asked, “Urhan nak gummies?” I gave him vitamin gummies everyday and he looks at it as treats. He loves it,”
“That made him stop screaming. And he said, “Abang nak gummies, Mama.” I pulled his hand and gave him the gummies. And things went smooth after that,”
“Sometimes, it’s easier for us to simply marah je anak bila dia act out. Dan budak-budak ini masih tak tahu nak regulate emotions dia macam mana. So bila kita marah, tengking, tinggikan suara, benda tu akan shape character dorang bila dah besar nanti. And this will create trauma for them,”
@uyaina.arshad✨ Gentle Parenting ✨ I had a rough night because Urayyan (the baby) asyik berjaga malam nak susu. And then I had a rough morning too sebab Urhan (the big brother) had tantrums. So pagi tadi, Urhan bangun je dari tidur, dia terus cranky for no obvious reasons. Taknak bukak baju. Taknak mandi. Taknak itu. Taknak ini. Kesabaran I betul2 diuji. Dah lah baru bangun. Bangun pun mengejut sebab dia nangis menjerit. And I ada kerja! Calltime awal pagi pulak.. The easy way is: Marah anak tu. Suruh dia diam. But I tried my level best to be a gentle mama. A Cool Mama. The one that does not scold my child just because he does not know how to regulate his feelings & emotions yet. This is the kind of parenting both Syahiran and I have agreed on. So.. I sat down with him. Allowed him to be upset. Biarkan dia menangis. But at the same time I let him know I was there for him. Walaupun dalam mengantuk sebab Urayyan pun banyak bangun malam tadi (RIP my sleep 🫠🤧) but I simply listened to him. And hugged him. And asked him what he wanted. “Urhan nak apple?” “Nanak.” “Urhan nak orange?” “Nanak.” “Urhan nak banana?” “Nanak.” And the conversation went on and on just asking about what he wanted. And he kept on shouting and crying and he also didn’t know what he wanted (obviously.) And then I asked, “Urhan nak gummies?” I gave him vitamin gummies everyday and he looks at it as treats. He loves it. That made him stop screaming. And he said, “Abang nak gummies, Mama.” I pulled his hand and gave him the gummies. And things went smooth after that. Sometimes, it’s easier for us to simply marah je anak bila dia act out. Dan budak2 ni masih tak tahu nak regulate emotions dia macam mana. So bila kita marah, tengking, tinggikan suara, benda tu akan shape character dorang bila dah besar nanti. And this will create trauma for them. Semoga usaha I untuk membesarkan & mengasuh anak2 with gentle parenting akan dipermudah. Semoga semuanya baik2 sahaja untuk anak2 kita. Aamin.♬ original sound – UyainaArshad
Akhir kata, Uyaina berharap semoga usahanya untuk membesarkan dan mengasuh anak-anak menggunakan teknik ‘gentle parenting’ akan dipermudah. Semoga semuanya baik-baik sahaja untuk anak kita. Aamin.
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